Showing posts from August, 2018

Mel's Creations

The winter before the flood, I decided to try my hand at sculpting. I choose polymer clay as the medium to work with, and I made less than ten pieces before life became hectic and I set the hobby aside.

Towards the end of June this year, I saw a pendant on ebay that I loved and I decided to try and recreate it instead of purchasing it - and thus my former hobby was rebooted with a new purpose in mind: jewelry making. I have not been able to recreate that pendant, yet, because it is a bit more complicated than I originally assessed, but along the way I have been able to create some really cute items!

I now have a product page: and I hope to have an Etsy page by the end of the year. On Saturday, September 15th, I will have a booth at the Abbeville Farmer's Market. This will be my first attempt at selling my pieces, as I have been giving them away as gifts up to this point.

For those who are unaware, polymer clay remains soft until it is baked. I use the u…

Release the Past, Forget About the Future

Our attachment to the past and to the future prevents us from living life right now. It prevents us from seeing reality as it presents, and it clouds our perception and judgement. We spend the majority of our day in the past and/or in the future instead of in the present.

When we look around us, we view the objects that surround us through the meaning of the past or the expectations of the future. Everything around us triggers little recollections of various experiences that occurred in the past, or that we hope/fear will occur in the future. When we see something vaguely familiar and wonder where we've seen it before. In the past. When we compare ourselves to someone and wish we have what they have. In the future. When we predict how a person will act or behave due to prior experience. Based on the past. When we play out a scenario in our head that has never occurred. Perhaps in the future.

But the past is not real, and neither is the future. Only what is occurring right now is r…

Why We Should Not Feel Guilty

We should not feel guilty when we make a wrong decision. Guilt is a concept designed to keep us down. It keeps the wrong decision alive in our lives, and causes it to manifest again and again. It does this by taking the past and connecting it to the future. In other words, the future is impacted by the past because of the guilt we carry.

For example, let's say Bob makes the wrong decision to withhold information from Betty, she finds out, gets upset, and now Bob feels guilty. He sees how upset Betty feels, and he feels a sense of responsibility and remorse over his actions. This guilt that he feels will carry forward. Every time he thinks of the situation, he feels bad about it. He ruminates over the situation in his mind, and thus keeps it 'alive' long after the situation has ended. Bob is now more likely - not less likely - to repeat this bad decision in the future because he A.) has not forgiven himself, B.) has identified himself as a guilty person who withholds inform…

Why Our Feelings Cannot Be Hurt Without Our Permission

No one can hurt our feelings unless we allow them to. No one is responsible for our feelings except for ourselves. When our feelings are hurt, it is because we have perceived the words or actions of another to be an attack on our identity or a reflection of a painful belief. In reality, our true identity can never be attacked, and our painful beliefs are self-inflicted. The words someone says or the actions they take cannot change who we are. Thus, their perceived offense and our consequent hurt feelings are solely our own responsibility.

Let's say that someone calls us fat.

If we are secure in our body image and realize that the words/opinions of others do not change who we are, this slight would not offend us. We would emerge with our feelings unscathed, and all would be well.

If we have a negative body image, and a deep underlying fear of being fat or being perceived as being fat, then these words are taken to heart and we allow our feelings to be hurt. This occurs because the …

Why We Should Not Take Things Personally

It is quite natural for an individual to think of themselves in isolated terms, as being separate from the other individual bodies they perceive around them. It it thus common that a perception arises in many individuals that places them squarely in the center of their perceived reality. When interacting with others, they view the responses around them in terms of how they factor into it. In other words, they gauge someone's reaction, words, or attitudes as a reflection of something the perceiver did or said instead of a reflection of the issuing party.

For example, if an interaction occurs between Bob and Betty in which Betty seems to be irritated or rather more curt than previously experienced, then it is quite common for Bob to interpret Betty's behavior as being wholly about Bob. It is common for Bob to imagine that Betty's behavior is a reaction to him. He may imagine reasons for Betty's behavior by connecting it to something he said or did, or by interpreting it …